EP 60: Why Someone Else's Fertility Journey Will Not Work for You (And What to Do Instead)

September 19, 2026

Are you doing everything right, tracking ovulation, temping, taking all the supplements, and still not seeing that positive test? You are not broken, and you are definitely not alone. So many women on this journey are following advice that looks perfect on paper but is not actually designed for their unique body.

In this episode, I am getting real about the hard lesson I had to learn myself: that fertility is not a formula you can copy and paste from someone else's journey. I am sharing why all the color-coded schedules and supplement stacks in the world will not work if you are not listening to what your body is actually asking for, and how slowing down might be the most powerful thing you can do right now.

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[00:00:00] Why someone else's fertility formula did not work for Coach Sophie
[00:01:00] The trap of turning TTC into a project with schedules and supplement boxes
[00:02:00] What Sophie was missing: stress, hormones, gut health, and thyroid
[00:03:00] Why focusing on ovulation tracking alone keeps you stuck
[00:04:00] The shift: slowing down and listening to what your body actually needs
[00:04:45] How to find your personal fertility blind spot and your next best step

Episode Takeaway:

Your Body Is Not a Formula: What worked for someone else on TikTok or in a Facebook group may not be what your body needs. Your cycle, your hormones, and your history are unique to you.
More Is Not Always More: Piling on supplements and tracking tools can actually create more noise. Some supplements will throw off your cycle, some will do nothing, and only a few will be exactly right for you.
Look at the Full Picture: Ovulation tracking is just one piece. The things that truly move the needle are often the internal factors like stress, gut health, thyroid function, and hormone balance.
Slow Down to Speed Up: When Sophie stopped managing her body and started listening to it, everything shifted. Pausing to really understand what is going on inside is not giving up. It is getting smart.

Resources

This journey can feel incredibly isolating, especially when it seems like everything is working for everyone else but you. But I promise you, you are not doing it wrong. You just have not found what works for YOUR body yet. Come join us in the Heal to Conceive Tribe where you will find women who get it, support that actually meets you where you are, and a community cheering you on every single step of the way. You've got this, and when you don't, we do. Baby dust to all!

Episode Transcript

Podcast EP 60
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[00:00:00] When I was on my fertility journey, I really felt like I was doing something wrong because everybody else was doing the tracking and the testing and the temping, and it was magically working for them. They would get on this supplement and all of a sudden it would work, and then I would try the supplement and it would not work for me.

The lesson that I had to learn the hard way was that my body is unique and someone else's fertility journey isn't necessarily gonna work for me. In today's episode, we're diving into why this lesson is important and what you can implement in your journey to help you avoid learning it like me. Let's dive in.

Hi, I'm Sophie Byfield and when I decided I was ready to be a mama, I thought it would be so easy. Get off birth control. Baby dance, like no one's watching. And poof, I was pregnant. But like many of you, that wasn't my story. After months of negative tests, endless treatments, and more supplements than you can count, I realized that getting pregnant isn't about fixing one piece of your fertility puzzle. It's about bringing your whole body. Back into balance so it feels safe enough to conceive. And this is where we focus on what really matters. Healing your whole body so that you can see those two pink lines. Welcome to the Heal to Conceive podcast.

I spent years believing that trying to conceive and getting pregnant was a formula. Baby dance at the right time. Take the right supplements and poof you were [00:01:00] pregnant. And I spent years sis, when I say years trying to find the right combination, like it was a log for my body. But what I didn't realize was all of the research, all of the go Google trends, all of the TikTok advice that is out there wasn't really gonna work for me or help my situation.

I didn't understand my body enough to apply it. I was just trying anything and everything. I turned the whole entire thing into a project. I had schedules, I had color coded. I had little supplement boxes that I walked around with just to make sure I was doing everything perfectly, and even though I was doing everything perfectly.

It still wasn't working, and it led to more and more heartache and more and more despair. But it wasn't gonna [00:02:00] work because it wasn't what my body needed. And that was the hard lesson to learn. I wasn't focusing on what my body needed. I was managing it. I wasn't focusing on the right supplements to get me the results that I wanted.

I was focusing on all of them. I was focused on ovulation tracking, temping, cervical mucus, and supplements. I was focused on everything that they say to focus on, but it actually wasn't working for my body. I needed to be focusing on stress, on hormones, on gut health, on my thyroid. I needed to focus on what was internally going on that would throw off my reproductive system.

And many of my clients when they get to me, are doing the exact same thing. They're focusing on the elite strips and the cervical mucus and getting everything down pat, [00:03:00] but it's all the other stuff that makes our body work in equilibrium that actually makes a difference for your journey. Until we start to write some of that stuff down and really look at what's going on, we can be on the journey a minute too long.

I learned that you can do everything right on paper and still not get pregnant. I've learned that you could go to the medical professionals and do IUI and IVF and time everything perfectly and still not get pregnant. I learned that you need to live your life as well as trying to conceive and not just try to conceive and live your life in a vacuum.

I learned the hard way that every single body, every single cycle is unique and not all of the trying to conceive advice out there is going to help you get pregnant. When I finally slowed down to listen to what my [00:04:00] body needed, I learned that my body didn't need more supplements. It didn't need more testing.

It didn't need more timing. It needed me to take away, it needed me to rebalance It needed me to figure out what it actually wanted. So if you are in this space right now, I want you to know that I have been there and many of my clients are also there. The best thing that you can do for your body is slow down, pause and start listening.

Some supplements are gonna throw off your cycle. Some supplements are just gonna pee out, and some supplements are what you need. By understanding your cycle, but understanding what is going on and really looking at the full picture, it will help you to narrow down where to go from here. Now if you want help with your next steps, sis, I want you to know that I got you.

Jump into the description box below where [00:05:00] you'll see my quiz and it's called the What is your fertility blind spot, where we dig into everything you've tried, look at what's going on, and help you narrow down the best next step for you to see those two pink ones. And as always, I want you to know that you got this, you're going to bring your baby home.

And when you don't got this, I got you baby dust for all.

EP 60: Why Someone Else's Fertility Journey Will Not Work for You (And What to Do Instead)

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