Podcast EP 21
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[00:00:00] Sis trying to conceive is a super lonely journey. I know that I lived in shame, that I was actually on the journey and I didn't wanna share it with anybody, and that is why I started trying to grab all of the different supplements, follow all the channels, and build my road to baby myself. But it doesn't have to be that way, and that can actually keep you on this journey way longer than you need to be.
Keep listening. 'cause today I'm gonna tell you how you can get the support you need without feeling the shame. Understand what supplements you should be taking and get pregnant faster. Let's go. Hi, I'm Sophie Byfield and when I decided I was ready to be a mama, I thought it would be so easy. Get off birth control.
Baby dance, like no one's watching. And poof, I was pregnant. But like many of you, that wasn't my [00:01:00] story. After months of negative tests, endless treatments, and more supplements than you can count, I realized that getting pregnant isn't about fixing one piece of your fertility puzzle. It's about bringing your whole body.
Back into balance so it feels safe enough to conceive. And this is where we focus on what really matters. Healing your whole body so that you can see those two pink lines. Welcome to The Heel to Conceive podcast. One of the hot topics inside of the tribe is shame. And how much shame people feel and me, I'm gonna raise my hand 'cause I am people.
I am people. How much shame I felt on my journey. I didn't want anyone to know that I was struggling to get pregnant. I didn't want anyone to know that it [00:02:00] was taking me IVF and IUI and these things weren't working. I felt like a failure. I felt like as a failure, as a woman, I felt like my body wasn't doing what I needed to do, and more importantly, I felt like a failure to my partner.
There was so much shame and I had no one to share it with. You know, I could have gone to a psychologist or a social worker or a therapist of some sort, but. I didn't really feel like she knew or they would know the journey that I was on. I didn't think that she would understand it, and so I decided to build my journey myself.
I decided to research and go online and follow all the TikTok channels and all the Instagram channels to find the perfect combination for me. But I have a science background, so I am able to do that. I am a nutritionist by trade, a personal trainer, yoga [00:03:00] instructor, so I am able to build that. But what about the people that don't have that background?
The people who are willing to try anything and everything to bring their baby home. The people that are doing this by themself, that might be you sitting here watching this channel secretly without anybody knowing. Because you are struggling deep down inside and don't want to share. I get it. I was that girl.
I was that girl. I remember picking the earliest appointment possible at the fertility clinic so that I was on time to work, so nobody knew that I was having a procedure. I remember taking my IVF drugs and scheduling the time. So that I could do them without ever having to do them at work. When the nurse said to me, you may need to give your trigger shot during the day at work, I [00:04:00] took the day off work because I didn't want anybody to know.
I felt so much shame because I needed help to get pregnant and I was alone. I had no one to talk to that understood. Maybe you can relate to my story, but what I've learned being a fertility doula and now having this community is that when you're working alone, when you're working solo, you're going through and sifting through random pieces of advice that may have worked for somebody else, but how do you know if that's going to work for you?
The truth is fertility is complex. Your body is complex. You are on a very unique journey, and the one size fits all approach isn't gonna work. Sure apps can help. Taking a bunch of supplements can help, but supplements can also harm. [00:05:00] I had someone comment on one of my TikTok lives recently where she said she started taking this supplement and she hadn't seen her period in 45 days.
That's what I mean when I say taking the wrong things can block your blessing. Being a part of a community changes everything. It truly does. You can put your questions into the chat. You can lean on people during the hard days, people who understand what you're going through. You can get personalized support with people understanding your journey.
You get to share your wins, your successes, your heartbreak, your disappointment with people who get it, and that was the one of the main reasons that I wanted to build this community. Because I wanted people who got it. I wanted to share with people who got it. Community provides a space for you to learn, thrive, and grow [00:06:00] together.
You're no longer doing it alone. You're surrounded by like-minded individuals who are on the same journey of you who are testing things, who are understanding things, who are trying to learn their body to bring their baby home. We celebrate when we get two pink lines. We cheer, we laugh, we cry, we hope, and we pray for every single person in that group.
Another year went by another year without two pink lines. Another year where I didn't bring my baby home another holiday without announcing my pregnancy.
I was heartbroken. I remember not wanting to go to holiday parties. I remember not wanting to leave the house just to have a quiet, me and my partner family dinner, because I was heartbroken. He could empathize with what I was going through, but he didn't [00:07:00] understand it. I needed to be able to share those feelings with people that understood, and I didn't have that.
But this holiday season. This holiday season, we had a community of women who were able to share what they were going through. We had a community of women that said we had more announcements of pregnancies this holiday than any other time. We had a community of women that rallied to laugh and cry and share their stories and come up with tools and strategies to help you get through the holidays.
That's why we have. The Heal to Conceive tribe. That's why I built this community to make sure that nobody, nobody goes through this alone because, because, man, this rollercoaster is hard. The tribe is where you get to work with me and get your personalized support for your journey. You get guidance, [00:08:00] you get support, and you get the sisterhood to get you pregnant faster.
The doors to the tribe will not be open for long. This is your chance, sis. This is your chance to fast track your two pink lines. Feel supported and empowered on your journey. I don't want you to miss out. I can't wait to see you inside the Heal to Conceived tribe. And remember, you've got this. And when you don't got this, I got you baby.
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